Our lives totally revolve around relationships with people and other living beings around us. Some relationships are beautiful, some are good, while others are difficult.
I'm sure we all agree that the most beautiful relationships are the most enriching. They fill us with love, joy, happiness and make life worth living. It is through these relationships that we learn sharing, caring and companionship. It is here that we hold cherished memories. It is here that we see a balance in give and take; and a level of understanding that can never be broken.
We've all experienced the magic of such a relationship with our soul mate, or parent, or sibling, or friend. The magic of mutual nourishment for the soul. We learn and in turn teach.
Some relationships are good. "We just get along," We know and appreciate the other person, but tolerate their eccentricities too. We know where to draw the line. We probably pick up a few good attributes from them too.
But it is the most difficult relationships that we think, we could have done without. They are "toxic"; they are stressful; they drain us emotionally; they cause a lot of negativity within us; they give rise to anger and frustration. And so on.
Why are some relationships difficult? Probably because some people are difficult. They may be unreasonable, narrow minded, jealous, dominating, self-centered or just anything that might disturb our balance. For some reason we are bound to this person. Call it karma, if you may. But the saddest thing about this is, that the most difficult people are the ones who need more love, more care and more understanding. We find it difficult to express love to a person who causes a lot of stress. And why would we care? Caring for a person who has nothing to offer in return other than more trouble?? No way! How can we be more understanding? We don't want to be.
But for a change, let us remove the "I" from such a relationship. Here is a person who has trouble with not just you, but with everybody he / she comes across. This person is used to being rejected every where. He has nobody. And he / she doesn't know why. He thinks that the whole world is against him.
Let such a person enrich your life. Learn how to deal with him. The key lies in detaching yourself from reacting to him. Look at him as a person who needs love. Learn to tolerate. Learn to love. Unconditionally. Look through the superficial. Communicate to his soul. Instead of feeling drained, you will feel nourished.
We've all experienced the magic of such a relationship with our soul mate, or parent, or sibling, or friend. The magic of mutual nourishment for the soul. We learn and in turn teach.
Some relationships are good. "We just get along," We know and appreciate the other person, but tolerate their eccentricities too. We know where to draw the line. We probably pick up a few good attributes from them too.
But it is the most difficult relationships that we think, we could have done without. They are "toxic"; they are stressful; they drain us emotionally; they cause a lot of negativity within us; they give rise to anger and frustration. And so on.
Why are some relationships difficult? Probably because some people are difficult. They may be unreasonable, narrow minded, jealous, dominating, self-centered or just anything that might disturb our balance. For some reason we are bound to this person. Call it karma, if you may. But the saddest thing about this is, that the most difficult people are the ones who need more love, more care and more understanding. We find it difficult to express love to a person who causes a lot of stress. And why would we care? Caring for a person who has nothing to offer in return other than more trouble?? No way! How can we be more understanding? We don't want to be.
But for a change, let us remove the "I" from such a relationship. Here is a person who has trouble with not just you, but with everybody he / she comes across. This person is used to being rejected every where. He has nobody. And he / she doesn't know why. He thinks that the whole world is against him.
Let such a person enrich your life. Learn how to deal with him. The key lies in detaching yourself from reacting to him. Look at him as a person who needs love. Learn to tolerate. Learn to love. Unconditionally. Look through the superficial. Communicate to his soul. Instead of feeling drained, you will feel nourished.
Let everyone enrich your life.
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